So today I am 18 weeks 2 days. I can't say that I have loved pregnancy so far....well, I love BEING pregnant, but I'm still so scared that something is going to go wrong that I can't really relax and enjoy it. This week has been the first week that I really started attaching to these babies. Talking, singing to them, being OK with my husband's obsession with stroller research (don't ask) and constantly touching my belly. I think having the belly grow exponentially over the past couple of weeks as helped. There is NO QUESTION that I am pregnant! T has started working on the babies' room. He is so good at wood-working and things like that and so far he has put up wainscotting and will be starting to make their cribs soon too! I went as far as looking at baby bedding this week. Actually found a nice gender-neutral one that I really like. The colors of the bedding are different than I ever imagined I'd like...hey wait, I'll find a picture of the bedding I like...hold on...
See...totally different but I like it! The quilt has a little surfboard, flip-flops and tropical flower on it which is so us! I don't think we'll paint the room orange, maybe more of an aqua color.
About genders...I have always said that I would not find out the gender of a baby I was having before giving birth. I kind of have a thing for surprises so finding out with a joyful shout of "It's a Boy (or Girl)" right after the hard work of delivery just sounds better to me than having an ultrasound tech tell me. I don't know...I just like the idea better. That being said, trust me, I've been tempted to find out (next ultrasound is in 2 weeks) so we'll see if this conviction about not finding out lasts the rest of the pregnancy! The other night while I was looking at bedding I became convinced that I had to find out, otherwise I would never find bedding I liked. Lo and behold, there is some nice gender-neutral stuff out there. I do LOVE finding out what others are having though so in no way do I think it's "wrong" to find out early...it's just my preference for me.
On Sunday I went to see my friend M from this post. She is due on Feb 13th. Man oh man do I wish that I was at her point in pregnancy! She looks great. She and her husband are lawyers so I did get a bit of a stab of envy when I saw their nursery...top-of-the-line EVERYTHING! I can only imagine how much they have spent! My poor twins will feel like second-class citizens with their home-made cribs and hand-me-downs compared to their rich friend! Oh well...as my mom put it when I mentioned this to her "your twins will have top-of-the-line parents and a custom-made nursery"....thanks mom, that did make me feel better! And T will do a fantastic job on the cribs...it's just hard to think about all the money that we put into treatment that could have been spent on baby stuff!
OK, now you are all feeling nauseous from this post...sorry! Hope I haven't gone too far!
Coming from someone that only just yesterday found out we lost our baby, I still loved reading your post here. Please don't stop posting just because you are pregnant. While it hurts that I lost mine, it is so nice to read the happiness in your post!
ReplyDeleteI think your babies will love the fact that their very own daddy MADE their cribs!! I think your mom had the perfect answer! Those babies will be well loved and that is all that really matters.
Oh Amber, my heart hurts so much for you right now. Why why why does this stuff have to happen??
DeleteI love your nursery idea -so cute! However, I understand how you feel. We are not even "custom making" our furniture - we are refinishing dressers from my husband's grandmother's house into a changing table and tall bureau. Meanwhile my best friend is also pregnant and is doing top-of-the-line everything. But, honestly, they're babies -really they are not going to notice. They will just know how loved they are. and how much they were really REALLY wanted.
ReplyDeleteSo true! Thanks for the perspective.
Deletekeep posting! I've always liked reading your blog. I can't wait until my blog evolves from a TTC blog to a Mommy blog :)
DeleteI always thought I would find out the sex of my baby, but since I found out we would need IVF I've changed my mind. When I finally do get pregnant through IVF it will hardly be a surprise, so it would be nice to have the gender be a surprise. There are definitely lots of nice gender neutral nursery stuff on ebay too.
Girl, it's not the dollars that go into the nursery it's the love! Ours will be very minimal, too, with lots of handmade items. I'm refinishing an old chest of drawers, making the bedding, and buying an Ikea crib and rocker. And you know what? The Chicken is only going to care about hugs from us! Also, that bedding is fantastic! I love alternative nursery colors. We, too, are not planing to find out gender, but as our 20 week scan approaches it is becoming more difficult. Time will tell! Keep thinking positive thoughts and planning for those babes!
ReplyDeleteYour nursery sounds beautiful. I feel the same way my best friend is due two weeks ahead of me, and they make more money then my husband and I. She has been telling me all the things they are buying for the nursery....all high end stuff I don't even know. But I do agree with your mom, you are both going to be amazing parents!!!! I'm so glad to hear you are bonding with the babies. Amazing!!!! I'm getting there!!
ReplyDeleteHi from ICLW. Congrats on your babies and your nursery idea sounds great. :)
ReplyDeleteMy posting has died down post-pregnancy too. Part of me feels like people stumble across my blog as they search for IF stuff, and I want to be sensitive. Maybe I am overthinking it. Your nursery sounds beautiful and I have so much admiration that you are keeping your babies' gender a surprise!
ReplyDeleteICLW #55. Seriously, ditto on all of the above comments about not worrying about the nursery. It will only look that way for a year or two before they start voicing their opinion about what they want in their room. And you'll have to change to beds so much sooner than you think. If you want to splurge on something, splurge on a good rocker or glider - you'll probably spend more time in it in the next few years than you realize.
ReplyDeleteCute nursery! I like to see what people choose for their nursery decorations because it's always so individual and different; especially since you don't feel stifled creatively by the gender or age or anything of the people who'll inhabit the room.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! Don't worry about having expensive stuff - babies don't care and will destroy whatever you have anyway!
ReplyDeleteVisiting from ICLW.
I love the nursery and I think handmade cribs sound way more awesome than expensive ones. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks! I think so too! Sometimes the jealousy monster just gets me!
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